Pusillanimous Post

So now I have been accused of making "unfair" comments about my in-laws.

Of course the pusillanimous poster signed the comment "anonymous" - but of course I know it can only be one of my in-laws - as my family member are most definately not online at this time - they are both busy (in my Mom's case preparing for her lobster cookout, or in my sister's case taking care of her two kids) - and I can't either of them imagine spending time during the middle of a beautiful Saturday, reading my blog and making such a pithy comment. Plus, they both know of the concerns I have on both subjects as we have talked at length about them. And of course it has to be someone who I know and who knows us intimately, otherwise they wouldn't assume the comments were unfair.

So my assumption is that the culprit is winging her way here as we speak! I could be wrong (Yes I have been known to be wrong a time or two) - it could actually be Ron, he was online at the time the comment was sent - but of course Ron has other tastes in surfing - and I doubt he'd be bothered enough by the minor mention to bother making a comment, if he even cared enough to read the blog. Now, if I am wrong - well then my effusive apologies...

So - what exactly did I say that was unfair? Well - nothing - I merely told the truth - now perhaps it was an ugly truth - and perhaps it was a mean-spirited truth - but the truth it was nonetheless. I am afraid I am nothing if not candid, and isn't that the purpose of a blog? While Thomas was growing up, he was often referred to as a "Mama's boy" - I repeatedly explained to those who used the term that I found the term offensive, and that it was unfair, trying to explain that his clinginess was a natural part of his development. But, my explanations were for naught, and inevitably when he was a young toddler, everytime he went running to me for comfort, that unpleasant comment was uttered, and I had to grit my teeth and listen to it. And of course those of you who know Thomas now, know that he certainly doesn't warrant that awful label!

The only other comment I can construe as being unfair is the "chagrin" of my in-laws in regards to our upcoming move, and perhaps the lucrative comment - now I can't imagine that is unfair, as they have openly expressed their feelings that we should not be doing this (moving that is), and have rarely had a positive thing to say about it. And there are no bones about the fact that it all is about the money, it's what they are concerned about. What will Ron do for work...Where will he work...How will you pay the health insurance...How will you live...What about money...

There have been no comments like - Wow - you are going back to school that's great! You are going to fulfill your lifelong dream and become a doctor!

OR - Wow - you guys will be able to afford a house - and to get out of that rotten apartment life you have lived for SOOOO long!

OR Great - the kids will finally be able to have a yard, and will not have to listen to police sirens, and the people upstairs banging around all night!

OR - Well at least Ron will finally be able to advance his career! - because even those of our friends here who have worked at Schwab admit that he has hit his glass ceiling and will go nowhere within the infrastructure of Schwab, and that (contrary to popular beliefs) Schwab is not the be-all end-all job! They all also think it's a great thing for us to do!

OR - That's great - Thomas and Ethan will be able to visit their Lola and Papa!! Even my mother, who also expresses her fears about our fiscal stability, says - "But aren't they excited that their grandkids will be closer to them" - which as many of you know is one of the major reasons we are moving back East - to be close - or at least closer to our families and so that Thomas and Ethan can get to know their Aunties and Uncles and Grandparents... But for some reason - and perhaps it IS unfair of me to point to cultural biases, they can't get past the money issue.

So I say to you "Anonymous Poster" the only thing that is unfair is that I am brave enough to post my thoughts in the open where everyone can see them, and sign my name to them proudly. And that you censure me behind the behind the guise of an anonymous post.